TOM ON TIKTOK: So a few years ago, my friends and I started making a spreadsheet, breaking down our incomes and availability for travel.

And so this week The Cut is collaborating with NPR’s Life Kit to figure out the best way to approach the sticky situations that come up around money and friendships. Made nearly incomprehensible because we just don’t talk about this kind of thing. Like … If my apartment can fit inside their apartment 4 times over - well, then, maybe they can offer to pay once in a while! Am I wrong about this?ĭo the same, mysterious unwritten rules apply to them? How does this dance change when the wealth disparity between us is so great? It’s all very confusing. And I hope this doesn’t make me a bad person because I don’t wanna pay for them! I don’t even wanna split the bill with them. The kinds of people who will never ever have to worry about making a living for the rest of their lives. Because this city is home to some super-rich people. And then I start to fall down this rabbit hole of who deserves to be treated? And who should I split a check with?Īnd to make matters worse, since I moved to New York City, a lot of the social tension around this very problem has been turbocharged. Obviously, because I can’t pay for everyone all the time. So instead, I just insist on paying most of the time. And since all my friends are from different backgrounds and make different salaries and have different values when it comes to saving and spending money, I still don’t know what the proper etiquette is when the bill comes. JAZMIN AGUILERA: Having friends means going out, doing activities together - in short spending money.

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